How I know that you can do anything you want.
You can do the things you dream of doing.
And I know because I am currently doing a thing I dreamt of doing.
That’s it. That’s how I know. When people say “if I can do it you can do it” - that’s true.
And I think I figured out the reason. (More on that in a second.)
A few months ago I quit my job, to dedicate all of my time to Honor. The first couple mornings I got out of bed and slowly made my way to my yoga mat, to meditate.
Instead of the perfect meditation I had pictured - I laid in the fetal position for about 20 minutes wondering who the hell I thought I was, leaving a good job and starting a yoga studio from scratch. My dog came over to check on me - my coffee got cold, it was a whole thing!
I got nothing done that first week.
Not a thing! I was so wrapped up in my doubt, that even when I went to start a task, I had talked myself out of it before it was done.
Then came an email from my contractor. He needed an answer to where something was going, basically right then.
My first thought was to forward this email to the person that handles these decisions, then I realized, that’s me. I’m that person.
I took a deep breath, and sent him the answer. It was my gut reaction, and it ended up being the right call for what I needed.
That was a turning point, that simple interaction put some wind in my sails.
It was a little whisper that said, "Trust your gut."
The pace picked up during the next couple of weeks (and has only picked up more since!) and it was conference calls and meetings and website building and floor samples and yoga mat ordering - kind of non-stop.
I started to get the hang of it, when I realized - the only difference between me now and me a year ago is that I decided. I decided to take this step, and the one after, and the one after that. It turns out, that’s what following your dreams REALLY means. It’s taking action, one small step at a time. With persistence. And confidence.
Insider tip: CONFIDENCE. It’s elusive. It feels like a thing that other people have. But it really does start on the inside. It’s a mindset shift. It develops when you CHOOSE to esteem yourself as the person you want to be. It’s also a lifelong practice that, just like a muscle group, strengthens when you work it. (I like to combine confidence building and muscle building at the same time, 2 for 1 style. Come to an Honor Method Sculpt class and you’ll see what I mean!)
Has it been “easy” to be a small, local, female business owner?
NO! I basically LEAP out of my comfort zone daily - and my comfort zone used to be really, really cozy.
Has it been “work”? NO!
I love/hate that as I get older I find that so many cliches are true. “Find what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life. “ Soo cheesy. So true. I’ve learned that I am a good business owner, I’ve learned that I have a super keen attention to detail, and I’ve learned that my intuition is strong and will lead me in the right direction.
I’ve got one more cliche for you - “If I can do it, so can you.”
The people that you see out there going for it, aren’t different than you. They made a decision to take one. step. at. a. time. With persistence, and confidence.
Here’s 3 quick ways I scribbled down in my notebook that you can use to become the person of your dreams. They help me everyday!
1. MOVE. YOUR. BODY. It changes our brain to function at a higher level. Movement builds confidence from the inside out. Breaking a sweat is key, it revitalizes our body and our mind - when you feel good, you do better. Start small, make it sustainable.
2. WRITE. IT. DOWN. Get your thoughts on paper (real paper and pencil if you can!) Write out one goal, and then write the steps backwards from there. Chunk it down so its attainable for daily action. It’s so easy to get stuck in ‘big picture’ mode - but the balance of the daily tasks and the end goal is super important. And if you really want to start to pick up some speed here, write out ten things you're grateful for every night before you go to bed, instead of scrolling through your feed. It’s a better note to end your day on.
3. “ESTEEM. YOURSELF. AS.” Start to see yourself as your best you. This sounds cheesy, but until we can shift our mindset about how we actually perceive OURSELVES, we won’t get very far. Listen to your inner dialogue, how do you talk to yourself? Would you say that to your kid? Or your best friend? So why would you say it to yourself!? That person in the mirror is your ally, not the enemy. Would you take a yoga class from someone you knew didn’t think they were a good yoga teacher? Probably not. Just like that good yoga teacher who’s class you love, study your craft. Become the expert.
Listen, the struggle is real.
We’re going to have days that we doubt ourselves, and we’re going to have days where we feel like we can do anything. As long as we’re willing to be loving with ourselves at the end of both of those days, we’re on the right track.